I don’t have to tell you that this time of year can be rough on couples or individuals struggling with fertility.  When we go to see our families and friends, we hope and pray that they finally took the hint to not ask us about kids anymore.  But for whatever reason, they still do.  Why do we fly across country to feel like crap?  We can do that fine on our own.  It does not help that the days are shorter and our vitamin D levels are already compromised.  I mean come on Portland, 4:30pm and it is already dark.  I am not even out of work yet.

Anyways, we receive the Christmas cards of ‘perfect’ families while we send ours filled with our fur-babies and our awesome trips to Paris and the Cayman Islands.  And while it is awesome we wish the card was the best baby announcement ever.  We want that Hallmark moment where we are the ones unwrapping gifts of shirts that say “New Father”, “New Grandma”, or what have you.  But its not a movie.

Why isn’t there a movie about IVF.   There should be a movie about couples and their real struggles, real joys, real fights, and real wins with this topic.  I know there are enough Hollywood people just like us that carry or have carried this burden of infertility challenges.   We have so many movies where a random hookup leads to a baby and shenanigans occur.  Where is the other side of the spectrum, where a couple intentionally tries to have a baby.   It might have been a side narrative, but not the main theme.  Where is a movie that we can reference when asked,”When are you having kids.”  We can finally respond with, “Have you seen (__Insert_TItle_Here__) produced by Zach Braff?”   That would be second Christmas wish.  Ya’ll know the first.

That escalated quickly to a rant.  I want to let you know though the vibe of this post may be intense.  I still have hope and I will never stop being passionate about the things and the people I love.  I love you Diane.  With that said I hope anyone reading this I wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, And a great 2018.